Tuesday, December 11, 2012

New Location

For various reasons this blog has moved. Check it out!

Tuesday, November 27, 2012

Review of High Calling newsletter

Just a quick suggestion that you check out the High Calling newsletter each week - http://bit.ly/highcalling. The newsletter features a one minute audio/video message from Howard Butt, Jr, that challenges a person about the value of their daily work with an interesting story. They are short clips, yet positive and commendable! Various written articles are also available.

Monday, November 26, 2012

Leadership Lessons from the 2012 Toronto Argonauts

A couple years ago, nobody would have considered an such an article title... unless it was going to be a how NOT to discussion. Today, Leadership Lessons from the 2012 Toronto Argonauts - the Grey Cup Champions, no less, is an intriguing case study.

Before reading my leadership reflections, you may want to read Cam Cole's report: Argos Stole this Grey Cup last year.

1) You need stability at the top - Ricky Ray is not flashy, but he is solid, good and a veteran leader. The Argos "stole" Ray from the Edmonton Eskimos and he was an excellent quarterback for them all season long including the three playoff games. In the CFL, the quarterback is the key position and the Argos had a steady, stable and effective leader for their offense.

2) You need great co-leaders - Scott Milanovich did a great job as a first year head coach, yet GM Jim Barker probably made Milanovich look especially good when he hired defensive co-ordinator Chris Jones away from the Calgary Stampeders last summer. Jones' record as a defensive coach in Grey Cup appearances is stunning (three years with Montreal, two Grey Cup appearances, four years with Calgary leading to two Grey Cup appearances, and one more this year in Toronto). A great team needs great VP's.

3) Make the tough calls - about four weeks into the season, the Argos decided to part ways with RB Cory Boyd. Along with eventual league MVP Chad Owens, the Argos seemed to have a super tandem in the backfield, and yet for mysterious reasons, they let Boyd go (to Edmonton) and stuck with Chad Kackert. Who? At the time, the tank-sized Kackert looked like a good blocking back which would probably mean that Owens would be the pre-dominant ball carrier. Observers speculated there weren't enough footballs to go around for Ray, Owens & Boyd. However, Milanovich let people speculate and simply said, "We're comfortable with Owens and Kackert in the backfield. Milanovich looks brilliant as Owens won the league MVP setting a new record for all-purpose yardage and Kackert won the Grey Cup MVP. Sometimes a leader's gotta make the tough calls that will be misunderstood and doubted.

4) Be comfortable in the background - As I was thinking about these different factors even before the game yesterday, I began to wonder, who is the GM in Toronto. During the game, they showed Jim Barker's face and title and I went "Oh yeah. Right." The Jim Barker I remember, especially from his time in Calgary, was loud and not afraid to draw attention to himself. Perhaps the same was true in Toronto, but I don't recall hearing much about him during the days and months leading up to the Grey Cup (which is rather surprising in itself, considering Barker's "flair," Toronto being the centre of the universe, and having no hockey to dim the media spotlight in Toronto). Maybe, the "mastermind" behind this whole plan finally felt comfortable letting the coach's and players do the talking and let himself be comfortable behind the scenes as the conductor of the orchestra. ARRRRR-GOOOOOOOS never sounded better than it does today!

Monday, November 19, 2012

Reflections on Charles & Andy Stanley reports

My friend, Pastor Tim Strickland (Waverly Road Baptist Church) had a facebook link to this article by John Blake of CNN. It is indeed a compelling read!

I found Andy Stanley's suggestion to his father to be so wise and gracious, even though as the article says, his father didn't hear it as such:

     "Dad, you never asked me what I think you should do," Andy said.
      His father smiled and asked him what he thought.
      Walk into church the next Sunday morning and read a letter of resignation, Andy said.
      Tell them that you want to continue as their pastor, and will preach as long as they want.
      "Daddy, your church is not going to leave you," Andy said. "They need the opportunity to
       choose to have you as pastor if you divorce. If you do this, it all ends. Let them choose."
      Andy says his father didn't hear anything after the word "resign." All the rumors seemed to
       be true. His son had joined the church faction trying to get rid of him.
      His son had betrayed him.

Theologically, I don't agree with Andy's answer. But what a gracious way to help a bitter war stop and to honour your father.

That's just one of the many reflections on this article.
I can't wait to read Andy Stanley's forthcoming book Deep and Wide.
Your thoughts on this father-son story?

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Being Thankful for minimal employment

At the present time I am "minimally employed." What that really means is I am a sessional instructor - that sounds so much better than adjunct (add-junk) faculty - with Prairie College of Applied Arts & Technology. I am teaching one course, Interpersonal Communication (SS 150) which meets four days a week October 29-December 13. Otherwise, I have no formal employment with an organization.

I am hoping this employment situation changes soon and am sending out resumes/curriculum vitaes as I see possible openings. I am also trying to network in various ways for offer my speaking/preaching abilities for pulpit supply, youth or other church retreats, etc. In preparation for these I am trying to work on a some shorter (and longer) sermon series, often based on class preparation from courses I have taught. I'm also considering how some of the shorter messages could be used for free e-books available through my blog (pdf files). Needless to say, I am not very good at sitting still and I very much feel like I need to "go to the office" each weekday, even though the class does not meet until 2:50 pm and there is minimal preparation needed as I have taught the course recently.

Nonetheless, I am trying to make the most of the current "minimally employed" situation and can already see God using these circumstances to help me see blessings instead of frustration. Today, Sarah had a meeting so I was able to stay home with the girls (Caleb was at pre-school). Likewise, we had extended family around last week and so since I did not have a pressing responsibility on Friday morning, we had them over for morning tea and I just enjoyed hanging out with the family. Last Tuesday, Sarah wanted to get the 10% Tuesday shopping done at IGA, and so it worked best for her to complete that before going with the children to our church's Mom's Time Out, so I stayed home while she did that from 8:30-9:30 am and then headed to the office. So, while I am not happy or enjoying the situation, I will take this is a blessing from God's hand and (try to) continue to trust Him and His good will. Sola Deo Gloria!

Monday, November 05, 2012

What are the names of the other guys?

Do you remember Shammua? Shaphat? Igal? How about Palti or Gaddiel or Gaddi or Ammiel? Okay, lets try Sethur? Nahbi? Geuel? Certainly you must recognize one of those men?

Numbers 13:16 reports, "These are the names of the men Moses sent to explore the land." Oh... I missed the other two names: Joshua and Caleb. As our children have been learning the song, Twelve men went to spy on Canaan, we talked about the names of the two men who "saw God was in it all" and they naturally asked, "what were the names of the other guys?"

I admit, I had to go back to Numbers 13 to look up their names. Why? Because we don't remember the names of the naysayers or the pessimists. We remember the names of those who become the leaders - the ones who see the challenges as opportunities. Leaders see what God can do and trust Him to go before them to win any battles.

Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Are you really ready to die on that hill?

Over the past few days I have again been flabbergasted at the things that Christians seem willing to fight over. I am not averse to conflict. Some might even say, "I like a good fight" (and I do... and not just in hockey). But really...

  • Is there any reason a Christian university dismisses a faculty member while making this affirming statement? "[Name's] orthodoxy and commitment to the gospel are not in question, nor is his commitment to Scripture's inspiration, authority and infallibility. He is a promising scholar and a dedicated teacher, and will be missed by his colleagues and students." I guess the reason is the last sentence of the press release: "Nevertheless, the University has determined this decision to be in the best interests of its constituency at this time."
  • Do people need to change churches almost as casually as they change their socks? It seems that in evangelical circles, we have lost the ability to dialogue without dividing. Certainly leadership is responsible to create an environment where healthy discussion and vigorous debate is welcomed. Yet individuals and the body as a whole also have responsibility to bring up concerns in a respectful and transparent way that recognizes that the leadership team cannot always divulge the full story that led to a contentious decision?
  • Do Christians need to enter into public debates with both barrels of their shotgun not just loaded, but firing? When a Christian takes issue with "liberal-minded" ideologues, the believer often comes across as legalistic and harsh, frequently attacking the person rather than the position. Meanwhile, the "opponent" ends up looking like the caring, compassionate person. Can we not approach a social issue with thoughtful consideration of those who hold another perspective, without watering down our stance?

Believers, are there not more important things to fight about? I'm not convinced some of the examples observed recently are even matters to argue about, and certainly not issues that we break Christian fellowship over. More than just the Christians involved in the conflict, we have missed another opportunity to be a credible witness to the gospel and Christ's transforming power. Leadership involves dealing with conflict and helping individuals resolve troubles satisfactorily and biblically. Yet I confess, there are times I want to ask, "are you really ready to die on that hill?"

Monday, October 29, 2012

Book Review: Enough by Will Davis Jr


At various times in my life, the song Enough (Chris Tomlin & Louie Giglio) has been an important reminder. So, when the opportunity to review the book of the same name by Will Davis, Jr. appeared, I felt it would be a good way to focus on that theme again. While it was not the topic/theme I initially thought, it was an exceptionally challenging book that I would recommend to every Christian for reading.

The basic thesis of the book is that we as North American Christians have way more than enough resources, and rather than continue to collect them, we should be sharing these with the multitudes of people around the world with far less than enough. Davis clearly accomplishes his goal of challenging North American Christians to reexamine their priorities in light of this imbalance through statistics (minimal), compelling stories, and biblical teaching.

Each chapter is bite-size with appropriate questions at the end that could be useful for group study. A well-written book and easy-to-read, Davis also demonstrates the biblical truth that those who sow generously will reap the rewards many times over (though as he clearly points out, that should not be the motivation). Davis also shares testimonies from other people, presumably from people he knows from Austin Christian Fellowship, that illustrate the concept of each chapter.

The truth is it is very difficult to find anything negative to say about this book.

Book has been provided courtesy of Baker Publishing Group and Graf-Martin Communications, Inc. Enough is available at your favourite bookseller or from Revell Books.

Friday, October 26, 2012

Disabled Husband & Father

Just discovered these two great articles by David & Gloria Furman on being a disabled dad and being married to a disabled husband... a topic close to my heart and mind that I hope to write about in the weeks and months to come.

Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Presentations Available


Growing Old Graciously
Many people plan for their retirement – financially. However, many people have not planned for life after 60 in the most important ways. Designed for people  creeping up to age 65, this one-hour seminar discusses the challenges of preparing to live successfully as a senior in every aspect of life.

Get Real
Three messages (Real Religion, Real Joy, & Real Thinking) designed for a youth or young adult retreat focusing on New Testament passages that challenge us to "Get Real" with our faith.

Spiritual Retreat
A pair of messages on “Talking to God” & “Listening to God” that could be incorporated into a larger spiritual retreat (eg. silence & solitude) weekend, especially appropriate for college age students.

Dr Steve Ibbotson has served as a college instructor, K-12 administrator, church elder, and board member with various non-profit organizations. In addition to these responsibilities, he has provided pulpit supply in various local churches and preached internationally. He is glad to serve the Lord by presenting biblical truth in an engaging and challenging way to your congregation or target group. Specific presentations available are listed below, though I am willing to share on a theme of your choosing in your school, church or other organization.

For more information, contact me via email (stevenibbotson@yahoo.ca) or phone (403-443-1550).

Monday, October 15, 2012

Book Review: The Art of Neighboring

A recent visitor to our church challenged us to consider the idea of a small group on every street. Connected with this, some young adults discussed the old concept of a "block parent" house, a safe home a child knew they could go to if they were ever fearful/in danger. Interesting, this organization recently ceased operations in Canada. Thus, when the title The Art of Neighboring was offered for blog review purposes, I thought this book might be a good opportunity to read and think more in this area.

As he describes in chapter 1, Dave Runyon and about 20 other pastors in the Denver area, were challenged by the mayor who shared, "the majority of the issues that our community is facing would be eliminated or drastically reduced if we could just figure out a way to become a community of great neighbors" (p. 19). Though Dave and the other pastors quickly realized the graciously stated yet embarassingly ironic commentary this gave on their churches and the Christian faith, they embraced the challenge and agreed together to do a series on Jesus' Great Commandment in their congregations. The result was the beginning of the Art of Neighboring project.

Throughout the remaining chapters, the authors explain how this project began to unfold and describe how an individual reader can begin to put a plan into action to love their neighborhood. As they freely admit, the plan is quite simple and much of the advice they offer is basic interpersonal communication material: start with a general event (eg. neighborhood bbq or potluck), don't expect to go deep with everyone; be available to serve various needs; set clear boundaries with those who may take advantage of your neighborliness. The reader can easily connect with the stories they share. They include biblical principles, yet this book does not require extensive biblical knowledge or insight.

I would highly recommend this book to any Christian or group of believers wanting to impact their community. A "Study Guide" at the end makes a group study/discussion for a group in the congregation an alternate approach. I believe the website provides additional resources and connecting opportunities also.

Book has been provided courtesy of Baker Books and Graf-Martin Communications, Inc. The Art of Neighboring is available at your favourite bookseller or from Baker Books.

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Book Review: Grace by Max Lucado

Yet another challenging and easy-to-read book by Max Lucado. Lucado uses his story-telling to illustrate various truths about the biblical concept of grace in eleven chapters.

There is nothing "exceptionally amazing" about this book; just good solid content like the reader has come to expect from Lucado. This reader did not find the book as mentally challenging or emotionally stirring as other of Lucado's works (eg. God Came Near, Facing Your Giants, or Outlive Your Life), yet there is nothing that can be criticized.

Along with each chapter, a reader guide is provided at the end of the book that provide related passages to consider, activities to consider, and a prayer. The reader's guide can be used individually or for a small group study. Along with a Spanish translation of the book, there are related resources (eg. DVD series, DaySpring devotionals or cards, and books for children or teenagers). It would be interesting to hear him speak on the grace tour to see how the book aligns with his verbal presentations.

Book has been provided courtesy of BookSneeze.com review program and is available at your favourite bookseller or from Thomas Nelson.

Wednesday, August 29, 2012

Back to School

Its that time of year again... back to school.

At Prairie Christian Academy, the first day of classes is tomorrow, August 30. In the secondary school, we have moved from the "Prairie High School building" to Prairie Bible Institute's Founders Hall second floor for high school classes & offices and the "old Oasis" for junior high classes. The final hookups are still happening as I type this morning and while it won't be all "done" by tomorrow at 8:30 am, its pretty amazing that the school got moved over in less than two weeks. A great big thanks to all the PBI friends who helped, all the Golden Hills School Division staff who have worked to make this happen, and of course our PCA staff.

This year, the back to school enthusiasm is multiplied because I will again be teaching some classes for Prairie Bible College/Prairie College of Applied Arts & Technology (PBC/PCAAT). I am excited to again be teaching at the post-secondary level, though having classes on Labour Day Monday is a bit of a disappointment because that time is usually devoted to watching the Canadian Football League Labour Day Classic football game(s), especially the Edmonton Eskimos (boo!) at Calgary Stampeders (yeah!). Apparently, college classes need to be scheduled on this day in order to get the required number of classes in for the first term. Oh well...

I enjoy this time of year because of the:
  • excitement of having young people around... after a quiet summer in Three Hills!
  • opportunity for a new start... and re-focus on some goals/projects.
  • order/routine that a school schedule brings to most aspects of life - work & home, daily & weekly.
  • hockey season is just around the corner... though maybe not NHL hockey this year!
So, even if you are not, enjoy going "back to school"!

Monday, August 20, 2012

Another reminder: "O Ye of little faith"

After a slightly embarrassing phone call Thursday indicating a couple of automatic payment bills had been processed and our bank account was now overdrawn, I deposited a couple of reimbursement checks that came on Friday to put our account safely in the black. Recognizing a mortgage payment was due, I checked the account this morning and lo-and-behold, the balance was considerably more than when I left the bank! Now I really had to check the account details.

Since Anna Joy was a home birth, registration of her birth certificate, social insurance number, and related paperwork leading to the Canadian child tax benefit has taken longer to be processed. With Caleb and Rachel, this paperwork was completed at the hospital and things happened within a month or two. We finally submitted the final documents about six weeks ago, hoping we would get the payments in July. Alas, that did not go through but... we feel like we won the lottery when it came through for August... and at just the right time.

Again, to say that we were "struggling financially" when you live in North America is itself arrogant. Likewise, to say that we were "tight" is an exaggeration also, as there are specific designations of our income we could move around to have more wiggle room. God has provided richly, beyond imagination, for us, and we are so grateful. Nonetheless, in my conscientiousness - also known as worrying! - I was getting more than a little antsy and feeling slightly irresponsible for leaving my family in this financial pinch.

So, the little surprise when I checked the bank account this morning was another reminder from the Lord: "O ye of little faith. I care for the sparrows. How much more will I take care of you?"

Wednesday, August 15, 2012

Reflections on Canada's Olympic performance

As I write today, I am well aware that many writers who will submit their two cents (and maybe that's even too high a value!) on Canada's performance at the London 2012 Olympics. Though no expert on athletic performance, government policy, or financial analysis, a moderate knowledge and understanding of each of these areas combined with thoughtful leadership reflection should lead us to at least three conclusions.

1. Imperfection does not mean failure
The "own the podium" funding that has enabled various Canadian athletes to participate (or attend without a lifetime loan) has been widely criticized due to Canada's weak performance in the medal count (18), especially marked by only one gold medal. While I do not want to justify the results by referring to the number of "personal bests" and "top 10 results" (its called "own the podium" for a reason!), it was not a disasterous Olympics. In fact, it matched the medal count of Beijing (2008) and Barcelona (1992), Canada's third highest total. In Atlanta (1996), Canada won 22 medals and in the boycotted games of Los Angeles (1984) Canada collected 44 medals. It is better than the 12 in Athens (2004) and 14 in Sydney (2000), so though they did not finish in the top 12 as was their goal, unlucky #13 really is not far off. The "own the podium" campaign did not show the incremental change desired, but it was not an abysmal failure.

2. Becoming Successful takes Time
These facts lead naturally into the second important lesson: a successful program takes time. It cannot be tried for one or two Olympics and then judged as either a success or failure. For this kind of world-class skill development to happen, it should be evaluated on at least three "seasons" of Olympics (3 winter games and 3 summer games). If we are still sitting at between 15-20 medals after the 2020 Olympics, then the question of the program's worth and financial viability need to be addressed. However, to assess the program after a "good" Winter Olympics (Vancouver) and a "mediocre" Summer Olympics would be a poor evaluation instrument.

The second part of the "own the podium" program, apart from government funding, is how successful the corporate partners feel their brand has been promoted as a result of their financial support. Personally, I am much more liable to visit a RONA store because of their funding of Canadian sports (eg. CFL football & Olympics) than a Home Depot or other building store. If, as I suspect to be the true, the corporate partners are satisfied that their financial investment is promoting their business successfully, this will encourage other major corporate sponsors to join in and thus the program can improve with minimal government finances increasing. However, if you nuke the program just as its gaining momentum, you will set yourself back years the next time an initiative starts for whatever cause. You have to build on success slowly before "big time success" can happen.

3. There is more to life than sports
Certainly, I enjoy sports as much if not more than most people. Yet there is more to life than sports. I would not want my first two points to suggest that I think the federal government should dramatically increase their funding of sports and specifically the "own the podium" program exponentially to the detriment of other programs, especially those relating to health, education and poverty. Nonetheless, there are many strange things that receive government funding that I would not personally support, so I think ongoing funding for athletes to compete at a world-class level is a good investment for both national pride as well as for individual success reasons.

Similarly, just because an athlete did not bring home a medal, does not mean that man or woman is not a significant role model in their community, large or small, with the upcoming generation. Fortunately, I do not know of any Canadian athletes in these games who were a discredit to themselves, the Canadian team, the country or their community by their words or actions. We had no athletes disqualified because of drug testing and none kicked out for "bad tweets." Overall, as is usually the case, our Canadian athletics were models of sportsmanship and this speaks well of the program and the country as a whole.

By contrast, if we had athletes that had "owned the podium" and then demonstrated an arrogance or worse, cheating, one would have more reason to question the mentality that the "own the podium" has fostered. However, these are absent and we as Canadians are both grateful and proud.


Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Book Review - There's Hope for Your Church

There's Hope for Your Church: First steps to restoring health and growth by Gary L. McIntosh is the author's fifth book specifically dealing with church growth and revitalization among the 20 books he has authored. Peppered with a significant amount of thoughtful advice for the pastor seeking to revitalize a congregation, there seems to be an underlying philosophy of pastoral ministry that not will not be amenable to all readers.

McIntosh clearly states his purpose is to provide pastors (usually a solo pastor of a struggling congregation) with a practical step-by-step approach to church revitalization that will give them confidence and direction. He quickly acknowledges the messy reality will happen in a logical (ie. step-by-step) fashion, but for purposes of structuring the book, he will walk through an organized process. The process set forth does indeed consider all the significant markers in the journey from a dying church to one that is renewing. Though there is nothing particularly new in McIntosh's perspective, it is thorough with real-to-life examples.

In his examples, McIntosh provides reality and practicality. While direct, he is generally gracious in the tone and attitude necessary for the pastor have be successful in the process. However, one specific quote clearly expressed the underlying philosophy of pastoral ministry that McIntosh and a growing number of church revitalization/church growth authors espouse: that the pastor is the "CEO" of the church.

In a discussion of raising up new leaders (as opposed to an "older/status quo coalition"), McIntosh says, "At the least, as the pastor, you should have veto power over who is selected for any board, committee, or church position" (p. 92). The rest of the paragraph shows the gracious, yet direct tone that is consistent in the book, yet this one sentence, hints to this reader of an underlying philosophy of ministry that is needs to be balanced with the NT church expectation of plurality of elders (church leaders). While recognizing there may be a denominational history from which this writer is most familiar, the pastor as CEO (ie veto power on committee membership) does not seem to be supported Scripturally, by most (if any) analysis of the early church leadership.

To clarify, I believe the pastor should have full authority in the daily operation of the church, making the necessary management as well as pastoral decisions (what to preach, who to visit, new members, etc). Yet McIntosh's statement is consistent with the rest of the book in a "lack of humility" or "sense of partnership" (those are the closest phrases I can find to describe it) between the elders elected/appointed in a congregation with whom the pastor/paid elder works.

I believe McIntosh does accomplish his purpose and provide a thoughtful, practical, helpful guide. Nonetheless, this one underlying philosophical assumption may make it difficult for some to read or practice if others do not share this approach to ministry.

Book has been provided courtesy of Baker Publishing Group and Graf-Martin Communications, Inc.
Available at your favourite bookseller from Baker Books, a division of Baker Publishing Group

Thursday, July 19, 2012

Book Review - I Am Second by Doug Bender & Dave Sterrett



This is a testimony book. As the subtitle "Real Stories Changing Lives" indicates, I am Second, contains 20 testimonies from individuals from various aspects of life, most of them common everyday citizens like us, though a few of them are recognizable names in their field (eg. Josh Hamilton, baseball; Brian "Head" Welch, music). The authors tell the story of how each individual seemingly had everything but realized that until they put Jesus Christ first in their life and their personal agenda second, they were going to be empty.

Each story was interesting enough on its own and most were enjoyable to read. Because the testimonies covered a variety of personal backgrounds and experiences, readers would connect with some stories more than others.

Perhaps the most interesting feature of the book was the "Watch the Film" section at the end of each chapter, identifying an online "film" version of the testimony along with 2-3 other testimonies of individuals in similar walks of life. The print version was not a text version of the "film" though there was significant overlap in the couple of samples I viewed. The www.iamsecond.com website would be a useful companion for those wanting to see more or refer a friend, though it could also cause the book to be redundant. Most of the under 40 age group (at least) would probably prefer to simply watch the online testimonies.

The above discussion is one reason I find it hard to recommend the book, when one can access the "films" for free. The writing is acceptable but certainly not compelling or extra informative. I am Second is a good book, yet nothing is especially exemplary.

Book has been provided courtesy of Thomas Nelson and Graf-Martin Communications, Inc.  Available at your favourite bookseller from Thomas Nelson.

Friday, July 06, 2012

"No Byproducts" - a healthy label?

Preamble: After the community playtime with the children, my wife stopped by her parents' home to get a few things and phoned to let me know they would home in a few minutes. She also asked me to get the hot dogs out of the freezer and start them cooking, and I agreed. As I opened the package to put them into the soon-to-be boiling water, I noticed the label "no byproducts." I think for hot dogs, this is supposed to be an indicator of their healthiness. But as I got to thinking, I hope the same could not be said of my life and ministry.

My definition of the word "byproduct" would be: a beneficial and unintended outcome of an endeavor." The end of a school year is a good time to reflect upon this question: were there any byproducts from your life? The stated goal was to educate students in a given subject(s), yet more than just academic learning, there are also various other outcomes, some intended (socialization, team work skills, Christian worldview, etc) and yet others that "just happen"; things that are byproducts that a teacher could not have planned or expected. One of the many reasons I count it a privilege to be involved in Christian Education is because we are explicit  and intentional about the various outcomes we hope to achieve: cognitively, socially, and spiritually. Most other educational institutions only state the academic outcomes when the other outcomes are always taught.

If there are no byproducts from my day - never mind my month or year - I am disappointed. Perhaps there are some days where there are no visible byproducts. I'm beginning to realize more and more as a parent that pretty much everything (eg. facial look, word, action, non-action) communicates a message. Whether it is consistent from one hour to the next is the question, and that (in)consistency has another byproduct for the child. Not just in parenting, but in so many areas of life, there are so many byproducts, many of which we may never know about.

I believe the Scripture speaks clearly to the fact that our life will always be a witness, whether it is for Christ or against Christ. It seems to me that while the label "no byproduct" might be good on hot dogs, it certainly should not apply to the follower of Jesus (Matthew 7:16-20; Luke 6:43-45; James 2:14-18).

Friday, June 29, 2012

Choosing to be an "absent" dad

Today is the first time I have wanted to be an emotionally absent dad. It has been a long week that began with preaching on Sunday (at Eagle Hill Community Church), was filled awards ceremonies at school, graduation banquet & ceremony, and a few responsibilities as current chair of the church's elders. Many of these things were in the evening, so I did not see Sarah and the children as usual, and some of these activities also drew upon the social & emotional energy, not just needing physically presence. After having lunch together with the PCA staff and wrapping up the school year, I would like to go home tonight as Canada Day weekend starts, and relax on the couch and just kick back and watch the CFL doubleheader on TSN... and not be interrupted by Caleb, Rachel or Anna.

However, they feel the same way. Dad's been busy all week with other "meetings" and he got home "too late" most nights. But now dad's finally home! They will be so glad I'm home for the evening and want to tell me all about their day and just hang out and play cars or dollies or... I think its the first time I've realized how easy it could be to be physically present but emotionally absent. As a dad, I have to make a conscious choice today to be in/with my children's lives. I want to be, but its not the easy path or even the first-choice desire, right now. But I know it is right and will be the wise choice for the long-term health of both my children, my wife, and myself. Thank You, Lord, for giving me strength!

Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Father's Day 2012 Reflections

This year, we spent Father's Day in Edmonton at my sister Ruth, and her husband Nathan's home, driving up Saturday evening, staying overnight, and then attending church with them on Sunday morning.* On Sunday afternoon, we went out to the cottage of my Auntie Lois (father's sister) and a number of the cousins enjoyed seeing one another.

*At Gateway Alliance, they hosted pre-service remote control vehicle racing competition and then the top times competed during the service in a big screen MarioKart race. Needless to say, Caleb could not wait for the service to end and enjoy racing a remote control car himself, and I'm sure will be quite disappointed when the PTC does not have race cars on the tv screen during next Sunday's service!

Along with my sister Ruth and niece Tiffany, my cousin Carl & his wife Terryl and four of their six children were present. Carl actually lived with our family for one year so we probably have the closest relationship with him of all the cousins. Likewise, cousin Dan & his wife Jan and four of their six children were present. Dan's (younger) brother Ron, and his wife, Genetta, and their two boys were also at the cottage. All of these (I believe) attended our wedding in May 2007, though we had not seen any of them since then. Not only did everyone have a great time just hanging out together, Caleb and Rachel (and Anna) especially had a wonderful time with meeting, visiting, and playing with all their "new" cousins. As well, I visited with most pretty much every person and had the incredible blessing of introducing them all to the amazing family God has blessed me with...on Father's Day. On the way back to Three Hills, somewhere between Jungle Book 2 and Cars 2, when the children were sleeping for a few minutes, I put in Chris Tomlin's "Arriving" CD and had no trouble singing out "How Great is our God" and "Your Grace is Enough" (Too Much!).