Friday, December 16, 2011

There are weeks like this in life (& leadership)

What a week? Last Saturday night, my dear wife Sarah was sitting reading on the couch as I finished watching the Flames defeat the Oilers 3-0. Just as we are ready to head to bed, my wife looks over and says, "I feel a little queasy." Seconds later, she drops the book and rushes to the bathroom and vomits. After cleaning up, we go upstairs and get ready for bed and are just about to settle in when... she vomits again. Fortunately, that was the last time, and despite not having a great night's sleep, the next morning comes around. Sarah realizes she should not serve in the nursery as was scheduled so she calls and swaps with someone else and stays home with Rachel while Caleb and I go to church. A fairly calm rest of the day, though we are disappointed we also had to cancel lunch plans with Sarah's family due to her sickness.

Sunday night, it is the children's turn to "up-chuck." I first hear Rachel cry out just before 3:00 am and bolt out of bed. In the 2-3 seconds between Sarah saying, "don't rush in, she might settle herself" and her next cry, I think but cannot find the words to say, "yes, you are right. I know she might settle herself. And yet I think that was something more than just a cry." The next sound is clearly not a cry but a throw-up noise and then Sarah bolts out of bed to go and help her. We get her, her bed, and dolly re-settled and before we know it, Caleb is awake. I help him settle and then he says "Daddy, my tummy aches." And that's the cue... he vomits too! Clean up the pjs and room, settle our boy back down and then up again ay 6:30 am for another round.

Monday actually goes okay and yet Monday night it is my turn to have poor night's sleep with back pain. I feel like I get no sleep at all and finally take some tylenol... something I probably should have done as I went to bed and felt sore. One of my perpetual problems... I don't take a pain medication until the pain is out of control as I hope its going to get better and I already feel like I take enough pills. Tuesday again goes okay, though Sarah and the children do not go to Mom's Time Out causing Rachel no small amount of frustration as she already missed playing with grandma at church on Sunday, now she doesn't get to spend time with her at MTO.

Tuesday ends with a Board of Elders meeting. Despite being very tired, I am feeling pretty good. Our Elders meeting goes well and we end with a discussion of an interpersonal conflict within the congregation... and it does not finish until after 12:30 am. Though I am home and in bed at 1:15, I'm sure I don't go to sleep until after 2:00 am and its a pretty restless night. By Wednesday, I don't know how I'm going to survive, but I do (by God's grace) and then another bad night with pain... and not taking tylenol quickly enough, and I just survive Thursday morning before taking a "sick day" (1/2) Thursday afternoon. Last night, everyone had a great sleep - myself, Sarah, Caleb and Rachel. It was incredible! I took a tylenol and a gravol before going to bed to help relieve the pain and make sure I slept well.

The purpose of sharing these "such is life" details on my blog is not sympathy (or to bore you with details). I think there's some leadership lessons I need to learn from this situation:
1) Manage trouble spots before they become major issues.
2) Don't put yourself into situations where if one thing happens suddenly, everything else shatters.
3) Life will happen and God will provide enough strength for each day. I confess, I was beginning to wonder about this on Wednesday... how was I going to make it through the rest of the week. The Lord always provides the resources we need to carry out His good will. I need to be sure to thank Him!

1 comment:

The Sidekick said...

I truly appreciated this post. There are lessons here that even a non-leader such as myself can learn. I am thankful I read this in the new year as I am thinking through goals and methods to achieve them.

And take your Tylenol!